So those who know me, know that I just can't stand flying. Makes me feel sooo sick. I have to say, flight wasn't so bad this time around. I did get sick mid-way through the flight getting to Houston. It just felt like a long never-ending roller coaster ride you just can't get off from.
Now here is where the story gets funny. I seriously need a camera following me from time to time. So we are driving to Oba's mom's house. This douche-bag runs into the side of the car and pushes the car off the side of the highway. Once the car comes to a stop, Oba gets out of the car and walks towards the jerk-off that pushed us of. Well the dude thought he was a tough guy too and gets out and in Oba's face. BIG mistake. Now out of nowhere, this other dude with a tie comes out of another car and in Oba's face saying, I saw what happened, I was a witness. Now one thing you never do is get in my hubby's face. He went off. His mom got in the middle of the whole thing and the smaller douche-bag (not the one with the tie) shoves his mom to the side. Now to give you a better visual, we are in a big HW in Texas, our bodies are all facing the flying cars and all you see is Oba's mom arguing, Oba in the guy's face, the guy in Oba's face, hands wailing, Oba pushing me and his mom away from the flying cars, the works. Yes, it was that serious. So now they move towards the ledge and I swear, with the way tempers were flying, I thought for sure Oba was going to throw the dude over the ledge. At some point, this other driver pulls over and calms Oba down a bit until the cops arrive.
We were all fine, car faced cosmetic damage, but nothing serious. But who would have thought that Texas has a law where you can't point fingers or get in people's face. Lucky for us, they didn't press charges against hubby and so hubby didn't press charges against them.
So we arrive at the house - Eat, talk, hang out. Wedding talks are now in the works with his family. Lots of logistics to sort of hash out. Exciting times! I have finally seen what my dress looks like and I must say the dresses are gorgeous. I have one dress that his mother had designed and another dress his sister designed for me. I am the proud owner of 2 custom-made Nigerian dresses and I LOVE them. Fresh, modern look and very flattering AND they fit. My biggest worry was that it wouldn't fit, but they do.
So tomorrow will be the official engagement party. In the meantime - Happy Blogging.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Monday, April 11, 2011
Caught up in the moment
First comes the ring and then comes the madness. If you are the kind of bride that has always dreamed about what your wedding would look like, once that day comes, you are officially owned by the commercialization of what weddings are all about.
The massive emails flooding your inbox, the letters in the mail with great offers. With each vendor I meet, each stack of bride guide magazine read, each theknot.com idea I see and copy and paste into my handy dandy word document, I enter into wedding fantasy land. What's wedding fantasy-land? Well its the land of make-believe where you think you could afford 1/2 of the stuff put together, but in reality, you do have a budget to stick to. Wedding-fantasy land has you thinking, oh yeah, I can do this myself - and while you probably have the skills to do it yourself, you certainly don't have the time to put something together between work, family, wedding planning, and just plain ole life. Wedding fantasy-land has you hoping that David Tutera will come and change everything around 3 weeks before your wedding, but really, the changes of that happening are slim to none.
With each vendor I meet, what I originally thought was going to be simple, ends up being grand. Venue, cake, flowers, etc. Why? Because once I get an idea stuck in my head and visualize it some way, I fall in love with the idea of it and refuse to budge for anything less than.
Case point. I just had my 2nd consultation with the florist.. I repeat - 2nd and I'm going to have to set up another one to re-do the order. My original vision for flowers changed because I changed the color of the bridesmaid dress and narrowed down my dress. So now with the 2nd appt, I bring a picture of my dress and the color the girls will be wearing. Now the focus will be on calla lilies. I'm stuck with calla lilies.. Love them and everything else presented to me just doesn't compare in my eyes. Problem. Calla lilies are exotic and expensive. So what I thought would be simple arrangement, is not so simple after all.
So now I have an order of flowers, which I'm totally not loving. Hydrangeas and lavendar roses throughout my entire bouquet. Not the direction I was going in. 1) I don't like roses like that and 2) I think Hydrangeas look like tissue paper, so personally, for me, it's not the kind of flower I would pick out. For the girls.. More hydrangeas and some other flower that's pretty, but not as pretty as calla lilies.. Once again.. Grand, beautiful, but I'm losing myself in all this. So I guess a 3rd appt will need to be made in order to change the order around all over again. Thank goodness the lady is super sweet and understanding.
This is what I get for watching David Tutera and being just that kind of bride-to-be that won't settle for anything less than what's already inside her head..
This is my venting session for this lovely Monday morning and it feels great to let it out.
Till nex time - Happy Blogging.
The massive emails flooding your inbox, the letters in the mail with great offers. With each vendor I meet, each stack of bride guide magazine read, each theknot.com idea I see and copy and paste into my handy dandy word document, I enter into wedding fantasy land. What's wedding fantasy-land? Well its the land of make-believe where you think you could afford 1/2 of the stuff put together, but in reality, you do have a budget to stick to. Wedding-fantasy land has you thinking, oh yeah, I can do this myself - and while you probably have the skills to do it yourself, you certainly don't have the time to put something together between work, family, wedding planning, and just plain ole life. Wedding fantasy-land has you hoping that David Tutera will come and change everything around 3 weeks before your wedding, but really, the changes of that happening are slim to none.
With each vendor I meet, what I originally thought was going to be simple, ends up being grand. Venue, cake, flowers, etc. Why? Because once I get an idea stuck in my head and visualize it some way, I fall in love with the idea of it and refuse to budge for anything less than.
Case point. I just had my 2nd consultation with the florist.. I repeat - 2nd and I'm going to have to set up another one to re-do the order. My original vision for flowers changed because I changed the color of the bridesmaid dress and narrowed down my dress. So now with the 2nd appt, I bring a picture of my dress and the color the girls will be wearing. Now the focus will be on calla lilies. I'm stuck with calla lilies.. Love them and everything else presented to me just doesn't compare in my eyes. Problem. Calla lilies are exotic and expensive. So what I thought would be simple arrangement, is not so simple after all.
So now I have an order of flowers, which I'm totally not loving. Hydrangeas and lavendar roses throughout my entire bouquet. Not the direction I was going in. 1) I don't like roses like that and 2) I think Hydrangeas look like tissue paper, so personally, for me, it's not the kind of flower I would pick out. For the girls.. More hydrangeas and some other flower that's pretty, but not as pretty as calla lilies.. Once again.. Grand, beautiful, but I'm losing myself in all this. So I guess a 3rd appt will need to be made in order to change the order around all over again. Thank goodness the lady is super sweet and understanding.
This is what I get for watching David Tutera and being just that kind of bride-to-be that won't settle for anything less than what's already inside her head..
This is my venting session for this lovely Monday morning and it feels great to let it out.
Till nex time - Happy Blogging.
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Feelings and Weddings
The other day, a friend of mine asked me a question pertaining to my feelings about Oba and how/if it has changed now that we are getting married. It really did get me to think about him, life, and my decision in general.
I met him in 2001 and it will be 10 years and 3 months from the day we met that we will officially tie the knot. Have my feelings changed in someway. Honestly, they are still the same. I have had him in my life all that time, but I have to say, I do think about him in a different light. I'm no longer thinking about, he's fun to be around, we go on awesome dates, he's great to talk to. I now think about the future and is he someone that is in sync with the same values that I seek for, that are similar to mine and the answer is yes. For every person that doesn't think he and I will make it, I can think of reasons why we stand a good chance.
Now that marrige is soon approaching and with every new event, milestone, just day-to-day things we experience, I see him in a different light. We are learning from each other, each and every day. I see him being the father of our kid(s). I see him to be a man of character, integrity, and a positive role model for my daughter, our future children, and others. He is a man with strong family core values. I see how great he interacts with my daughter - a child that he has embraced as his own. Every day, I say how blessed and lucky I am to have met a man that can completely, 100% take a child and sincerely call her his own.
All of this, and so much more, excites me and I can't wait to start our new journey together. Have our feelings intensified, I'm not sure. But what I do know is the feeling of assurance that this is the right thing has definitely intensified.
A man is like a pillar, a woman like a crossbeam. A man is like the legs of a person, a woman like the trunk. A man is like the wings of a bird, a woman like the body. If the wings and the body become separated, then how can the bird fly? And if the pillar topples, then the crossbeam will surely fall to the ground. A home without a man is like a person without a soul.Love Quote by Anonymous
I met him in 2001 and it will be 10 years and 3 months from the day we met that we will officially tie the knot. Have my feelings changed in someway. Honestly, they are still the same. I have had him in my life all that time, but I have to say, I do think about him in a different light. I'm no longer thinking about, he's fun to be around, we go on awesome dates, he's great to talk to. I now think about the future and is he someone that is in sync with the same values that I seek for, that are similar to mine and the answer is yes. For every person that doesn't think he and I will make it, I can think of reasons why we stand a good chance.
Now that marrige is soon approaching and with every new event, milestone, just day-to-day things we experience, I see him in a different light. We are learning from each other, each and every day. I see him being the father of our kid(s). I see him to be a man of character, integrity, and a positive role model for my daughter, our future children, and others. He is a man with strong family core values. I see how great he interacts with my daughter - a child that he has embraced as his own. Every day, I say how blessed and lucky I am to have met a man that can completely, 100% take a child and sincerely call her his own.
All of this, and so much more, excites me and I can't wait to start our new journey together. Have our feelings intensified, I'm not sure. But what I do know is the feeling of assurance that this is the right thing has definitely intensified.
A man is like a pillar, a woman like a crossbeam. A man is like the legs of a person, a woman like the trunk. A man is like the wings of a bird, a woman like the body. If the wings and the body become separated, then how can the bird fly? And if the pillar topples, then the crossbeam will surely fall to the ground. A home without a man is like a person without a soul.Love Quote by Anonymous
Monday, April 4, 2011
195 or so days to go
I know, I have been non-existent on this blog for a bit. As of lately, I have done, yet another cake testing. Cake design, flaors and vendor has been locked in. I must say, for someone who could care less about the cake, we sure did go a bit on the grand side. So I guess the cake DOES matter.
I have stacks and stacks of bridal magazines, looking for inspirations on cake, flowers, favors, programs, menu cards, invites, accessories, seeing if there is maybe ANOTHER dress out there, candy bar ideas, you name it, its flagged. I'm up to my eyeballs in wedding ideas. I need David Tutera or I have become my own personal David Tutera.
What I do know is that I'm looking for that classy, elegant wedding, but yet, one that will have my guests dancing, laughing, enjoying themselves. I want them over-fed and left feeling like WOW.
Now - The next mission for us will be: Customizing our ceremony. While we don't belong to any one church, we struggled with wanting a wedding that was religious. He and I were very adamant about marrying through god and not justice of the peace. We were blessed to find a priest that will do it for us and now our next task to tackle is customizing the ceremony program and finding quotes from the new and old testament that fits us. Oy Vey..
Till next time.. Happy Blogging..
I have stacks and stacks of bridal magazines, looking for inspirations on cake, flowers, favors, programs, menu cards, invites, accessories, seeing if there is maybe ANOTHER dress out there, candy bar ideas, you name it, its flagged. I'm up to my eyeballs in wedding ideas. I need David Tutera or I have become my own personal David Tutera.
What I do know is that I'm looking for that classy, elegant wedding, but yet, one that will have my guests dancing, laughing, enjoying themselves. I want them over-fed and left feeling like WOW.
Now - The next mission for us will be: Customizing our ceremony. While we don't belong to any one church, we struggled with wanting a wedding that was religious. He and I were very adamant about marrying through god and not justice of the peace. We were blessed to find a priest that will do it for us and now our next task to tackle is customizing the ceremony program and finding quotes from the new and old testament that fits us. Oy Vey..
Till next time.. Happy Blogging..
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