Caught up in the moment

First comes the ring and then comes the madness.  If you are the kind of bride that has always dreamed about what your wedding would look like, once that day comes, you are officially owned by the commercialization of what weddings are all about.  

The massive emails flooding your inbox, the letters in the mail with great offers.  With each vendor I meet, each stack of bride guide magazine read, each theknot.com idea I see and copy and paste into my handy dandy word document, I enter into wedding fantasy land.   What's wedding fantasy-land?  Well its the land of make-believe where you think you could afford 1/2 of the stuff put together, but in reality, you do have a budget to stick to.   Wedding-fantasy land has you thinking, oh yeah, I can do this myself - and while you probably have the skills to do it yourself, you certainly don't have the time to put something together between work, family, wedding planning, and just plain ole life. Wedding fantasy-land has you hoping that David Tutera will come and change everything around 3 weeks before your wedding, but really, the changes of that happening are slim to none. 


With each vendor I meet, what I originally thought was going to be simple, ends up being grand.  Venue, cake, flowers, etc.  Why?  Because once I get an idea stuck in my head and visualize it some way, I fall in love with the idea of it and refuse to budge for anything less than. 

Case point.  I just had my 2nd consultation with the florist.. I repeat - 2nd and I'm going to have to set up another one to re-do the order.  My original vision for flowers changed because I changed the color of the bridesmaid dress and narrowed down my dress.  So now with the 2nd appt, I bring a picture of my dress and the color the girls will be wearing.  Now the focus will be on calla lilies.  I'm stuck with calla lilies.. Love them and everything else presented to me just doesn't compare in my eyes.  Problem.  Calla lilies are exotic and expensive.  So what I thought would be simple arrangement, is not so simple after all. 

So now I have an order of flowers, which I'm totally not loving.  Hydrangeas and lavendar roses throughout my entire bouquet.  Not the direction I was going in.   1) I don't like roses like that and 2) I think Hydrangeas look like tissue paper, so personally, for me, it's not the kind of flower I would pick out.   For the girls.. More hydrangeas and some other flower that's pretty, but not as pretty as calla lilies.. Once again.. Grand, beautiful, but I'm losing myself in all this.  So I guess a 3rd appt will need to be made in order to change the order around all over again.   Thank goodness the lady is super sweet and understanding. 

This is what I get for watching David Tutera and being just that kind of bride-to-be that won't settle for anything less than what's already inside her head..

This is my venting session for this lovely Monday morning and it feels great to let it out. 

Till nex time - Happy Blogging.