So I suggest to Oba the option of not having a wedding cake at the wedding, since the meal package includes an oh so yummy desert. He gasps and says, Oh NO.. We ARE having a cake. Not an option. I just look at him like, really? Why? Who will miss it, considering that we will be stuffing our guests with food and liquor from beginning to end. He responds with, well for pictures, Duh! I say, OK, so why not do a beautifully displayed cupcake tower. Ummm, negative.. Not an option.
I realize, this is a battle I will not win, I proceed to look for wedding cake ideas. I'm on various websites, theknot.com, googling wedding cake images, Martha Stewart, wedding.com, bride magazines, you name it, I'm on it. Well, honestly, I'm not finding a single cake display that I'm totally loving. Not to mention, I'm not a cake lover, especially frosting, so now the question is, fondant, no fondant, butter cream, Italian butter cream, filling, no filling, cake flavor, decisions are endless.
So as I'm searching, I start to think: Why is it that people always feel that a wedding is not complete without the wedding cake? You have this overpriced, fattening, calorie packed beautifully displayed cake that sits on this table towards the back of the room. Its purpose - so you have pictures you can look back at and say, oh yeah, that's where my $800+ went towards.. Really? Who will miss it? Between the music and the drinking, I don't expect anyone to come up to me and say, Hey, I notice you DON'T have a cake, what's up with that?
The bigger the cake, the grander the reception seems. Good thing I still have a couple of months to book a cake testing and lock in a vendor to make our cake. This topic will definitely reappear in a few months.
Stay tuned!
I think most weddings today are for the show - all of the pomp and circumstance - what people have been led to believe a traditional wedding should look like. It's evolved over the years to what we see now so if you want to make a change, I say, go for it!!! Read Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert.
ReplyDeleteI am all for doing something non traditional due to the fact that i am not a big cake fan. Here is a suggestion. Why not just have like a small grooms cake to cut or just make a small cake for a topper since they suggest you eat the top of the cake on your one year anninversary and have your cupcake towers or small treats for your dessert.
ReplyDeleteI like Sonya's idea. Keep us posted!
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